Step One: Self-Examination!
"You, hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother or sister's eye." -Matthew 7:5
What tough words from Jesus! He begins by calling me a hypocrite. Ouch! Then he tells me to address the plank distorting my vision. He wants me to look in the mirror and examine my own life first before I criticize my brother or sister. After I have done this, then I can see more clearly to address someone else's much smaller issue that bothers me. What practical wisdom to help us better love our neighbor as we love ourselves.